Empathy
and Compassion As the Antidote to Chaos
by
Rev. Paul J. Bern
Mass
shootings here at home, combined with rumors of wars between Russia,
China and the US in every combination you can think of, not to
mention the Middle East, are making most of us think the entire world
is coming unglued. In my humble opinion, those who think so are
absolutely right. We are exactly at the point in history that Jesus
spoke about in Matthew chapter 24, verse six when our Lord and Savior
said, “You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it
you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to
come”. Some say this means world war three is inevitable just
because Jesus made that statement the way He did. After all, the word
“must” is right in the middle of it. But I would like to
interject here that God also created humankind will a free will –
meaning, we can change our world for the better if we do our due
diligence in seeing this huge task through to its completion, and if
we are collectively determined enough to succeed. Where to start
from, you may ask? One place could be to sharpen our instincts for
empathy and compassion towards others. What has gone so terribly
wrong with our country (not just the US, but globally)? Why are we
becoming more aggressive, violent, self-interested and egocentric as
a society? The problem goes far deeper than just blaming the
escalating rhetoric of political pundits (such as Donald Trump's
current presidential bid) and talk show hosts, or of vilifying the
so-called “gun culture” (which is part of the Constitution of the
United States). Guns are part of American culture, and have been
since its inception. But at the end of the day, all this amounts to
is fear-mongering. I think the world is a dangerous place, and so for
myself, acquiring the means to defend myself is just part of life.
But if anyone disagrees, stay with me here because I'm going
somewhere with this.
It
is the very nature of human beings that make us so susceptible to the
rising plague of hate and mistrust, even to the point of paranoia,
and of the unfocused rage and violence that is spreading across the
land. The American character was forged, in large part, on a skewed
idea about who we are as a people that was spawned hundreds of years
ago in the Protestant Reformation. From the very moment John Winthrop
and his flock of Puritans landed on American shores in 1620, we came
to believe that we are God's chosen people, when in fact the Bible
states clearly and repeatedly that it is the nation of Israel that is
God's chosen people. For Scripture that backs this up irrefutably,
please see Deuteronomy chapter 34, verses 1-4 (“Then
Moses climbed Mount Nebo from the plains of Moab to the top of
Pisgah, across from Jericho. There the Lord showed him the whole land
– from Gilead to Dan, all of Naphtali, the territory of Ephraim and
Manasseh, all the land of Judah as far as the western sea, the Negev
and the whole region from the valley of Jericho, the city of palms,
as far as Zoar. Then the Lord said to him, 'This is the land I
promised on oath to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob when I will give it to
your descendants'”;
and Joshua chapter one, verses 2-5, which says, “Moses
my servant is dead.
Now
then, you and all these people get ready to cross the Jordan River
into the land I am about to give to them – to the Israelites. I
will give you every place that you set your foot, as I promised
Moses. Your territory will extend from the desert in Lebanon, and
from the great river, the Euphrates – all the Hittite country –
to the Great Sea on the west. No one will be able to stand up against
you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with
you; I will never leave you nor forsake you.” For
the most detailed explanation found in the Bible, see Joshua chapters
13-20, which describes in great detail the root causes of the
Arab-Israeli conflict that simmers to this day.
To
put it bluntly, the ideology that God has a unique covenant with
America that makes us special among the peoples of the world is a
load of bull. It's called “replacement theology”, and it's a
false teaching that mostly exists in certain denominations that I
will decline to mention. I pray that these people will come to the
maximum level of knowledge of the truth through the indwelling of the
Holy Spirit, without which they cannot be saved. There are still
others who self-identify as Christians who have become the fiercest
supporters of the erroneous belief that the naked pursuit of
individual self-interest – the pursuit of profit based on greed,
a.k.a. capitalism – is the defining feature of human nature (known
colloquially as the “prosperity gospel”). We have by extension
become believers in so-called “American exceptional-ism," the
mistaken belief that our political ideology(s) and our capitalist
economic system and way of life are somehow superior to all others
(mainly because it's allegedly made the United States the richest
country in the world). This mountain of political hubris was the
basis for the Cold War from the late 1940's to the late 1980's.
Untold trillions of American tax dollars were wasted on a Cold War
effort that was probably never necessary in the first place! Yet, in
our social lives, we are the strongest supporters of “social
Darwinism”, that life is a combative struggle in which only the
strongest survive. These highly regarded core “beliefs” are
antithetical to a mature and empathetic sensibility, an antidote to
compassion, and they are mean-spirited, malicious and selfish to say
the least.
It's
no wonder, then, that when President Obama spoke of “empathy”
during his first year in office, mentioning that it is the guiding
philosophical principle in his life, he was pummeled and excoriated
in the main-stream press as being weak, and “unfit” to be the
Commander-in-Chief of the most powerful nation on Earth. The question
that is bothering me here is: What is there about the interrelated
concepts of empathy and compassion that conjures up so much derision?
Why does this seem to frighten or offend so many people? Perhaps it's
because having empathy and compassion requires giving up the pretense
of being special and anointed, as being “God's chosen people”,
which is tantamount to being usurpers of God's holy covenant as
stated in the above passages of Scripture. It means being mindful of
other points of view, which requires the maintenance of an open mind,
not to mention tolerance of those who are different from ourselves.
It also means abandoning the stupid idea that narcissistic
self-interest is the only thing that matters. And, most important, it
means being sympathetic to the plight of others who are less
fortunate and being sensitive to their needs. That's what Jesus meant
when he said, “Whatsoever
you do for the least of my brethren, that you do for me”.
New
discoveries in human evolutionary development that encompass
mankind's anthropology as well as advances in psychiatry and
psychology are challenging our long held shibboleths about human
nature. We are learning that human beings are biologically
predisposed – not for aggression, violence, self-interest and
pleasure-seeking utilitarian behavior, but rather for friendship and
sociability, even intimacy – and that empathy and compassion are
the emotional and cognitive means by which we express these drives.
To empathize is to experience the condition of others as if it was
our own. It is to recognize their vulnerabilities and their struggles
to flourish and to become something more than what they are. To
express compassion with others requires that we first acknowledge our
own vulnerabilities and to confront our own feelings of insecurity.
It is because we realize that life is fraught with challenges, that
we are all imperfect, fragile and vulnerable, that life is precious
and worthy of being treated with respect, that we are then able to
reach out and, through our empathetic regard, express our solidarity
with our fellow beings. Empathy is how we celebrate each others
existence. To empathize is to civilize, and to have and practice
compassion is what sums up the two greatest commandments of Christ
(“Love
the Lord your God with all your strength, with all your might, with
all your heart and with all your spirit.
And the second command is like the first: Love your neighbor as
yourself”).
Empathy
is the real 'invisible hand' of history. It is the social glue that
has allowed our species to express solidarity with each other over
ever broader domains. The advent of the internet in the last 25
years, and more recently social media, has increased this phenomenon
exponentially. Empathy has evolved over history. In forager-hunter
societies, empathy rarely went beyond tribal blood ties. In the great
agricultural age, empathy extended past blood ties to socialization
ties based on religious or racial identification. Jews began to
empathize with fellow Jews as if in an extended family, Christians
began empathizing with fellow Christians, Muslims with Muslims, and
so on. In the Industrial Age, with the emergence of the modern
nation-state, empathy extended once again, this time to people of
like-minded national identities. Americans began to empathize with
Americans, Germans with Germans, Japanese with Japanese. Today
empathy is beginning to stretch beyond national boundaries to include
the whole of humanity. We are coming to see the biosphere as our
indivisible community, and our fellow human beings and creatures as
our extended evolutionary family.
This
doesn't mean that our national loyalties, religious beliefs and blood
affiliations are not important to us any more. But when they become a
litmus test for defining the human sojourn, all other beliefs become
the “alien other”. For a long time, we Americans have been
obsessed with "creating a more perfect union." Maybe it is
time to put equal or greater weight on creating a more empathetic and
compassionate society. The hard economic times that have been ongoing
since the economic implosion of 2008 up to the present serve to add
even more emphasis to this timeless truth. We have the stark choice
of either upholding each other for the mutual benefit of all, or
facing mutually assured self-destruction. It's all up to us.
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